Makes Me Wanna Holler: Working & Hurting While Black

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Makes Me Wanna Holler: Working & Hurting While Black

Sigh. 

Sigh. 

This is so hard to write.  I have nothing to say that is eloquent, that will give you comfort, that will somehow make swallowing the pill of the steady stream of black men being killed by police go down easier.  

Truth be told, I've been firmly tucked up inside my feelings this whole week, rotating between anger, frustration, heartbreak, and true, honest-to-God fear.  Fear for me, my loved ones, my child, my people.  

So while I can't help you process or make sense of this, or even point you towards resources that can, or even one clear plan of action for the future, what I can do is try to help you be able to put one foot in front of the other and make it through another day at work. 

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On CP Time and How to Handle Being So Late to Work It's Just Triflin

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On CP Time and How to Handle Being So Late to Work It's Just Triflin

Can we talk about CP time?  

It's a thing.  And if you come from a cultural or family background where starting times are more of a suggestion than a mandate, it can be a real challenge.  

Whether you believe this to be rooted in our cultural differences or a pernicious and offensive stereotype, the truth is many of your new coworkers may be primed to expect you to be late to work just because of your skin tone.  When you are, they will be quick to be resentful, assuming you think you can flout the rules everyone else must follow.  

If you're Punctual Pam and believe "to be early is to be on time and to be on time is to be late," this may not be a problem for you.  But, if you're like me, where being within 15-30 minutes of the discussed start time is considered on time, if not early, this may be something you have to adjust for in your career.  

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